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Fabian Di Marco's avatar

The older I get, the more I realise I'm not so different to other people. I won't digress into why I've thought that way, but it's sufficient to say we're sailors in the same boat. Ahoy.

What you're getting at is our interpretation of time and what we make of it, and tied to that is our expectations of ourselves and (typically), the notion of legacy. There's too much to unpack in a Substack comment, so I'll leave a few things that I think have helped me reframe and cope with the bag of 'stuff'.

1. Spend more time doing the things that I never feel like are a waste of time, or I regret spending time of. E.g, with my kids. I never regret a second extra I spend with them vs doing anything else.

2. Decoupling what makes me money from everything else. There's one of those inspo quotes going around that says something like, 'Find a thing that makes you money, a thing that lets you be creative, and a thing that keeps you healthy/laugh', and I don't know why but that silly quote permitted me to separate the expectation of what 'my thing' actually is.

3. Letting go of the concept of purpose. Letting go of improbable expectations that burden us. This one is still new to me, but, so far, it's resonating. I highly, encourage listening to this Tim Ferris podcast episode with Elizabeth Gilbert. https://tim.blog/2024/09/26/elizabeth-gilbert-2/ .

As usual, great post. Keep em' coming.

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Trey Roque's avatar

Great guidance.

As I have always had sleeplessness problems, I’ve grown used to breaking up my sleep cycle. After all, the norm is part of the problem you raise above.

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